Tuesday, Nov. 15, 2005 - 10:22 a.m.

Nothing much of interest

This is part of an uneventful time. Just life as usual, which is actually just how I like it. Low maintenance, that's me.

A low maintenance friend called yesterday. We joke about it, but both appreciate that we don't have to feel guilty with each other. We always pick up right where we left off, and have a good phone visit. I met her years ago (maybe 25) when she would come into the little milk depot where I worked when the kids first started private school. We found out we were both Christians and have kept in touch ever since. She had one adopted son the same age as 2d who died in his late teens of cancer and that is another tie between us. Her husband helped build the church I were going to; that was another. We were both housewives; another tie altho I was working at this little milk depot to pay the tuition at private school. Her husband taught adult SS and had a jail ministry, mine was a former missionary pastor, both very conservative Biblically. Another tie. We both loved to read. One would think we would end up bosom buddies, but it just didn't ever happen, mainly because we are not that kind of women. Nothing wrong with bosom buddies, and high maintenance friends, but we both had high maintenance families that were our first priority.

Her current mission is to get 2d and a young fellow in their church together. Un(or not)fortunately, neither is cooperating. The mother of the guy and a bookstore friend of both are also in on the conspiracy, but I could tell them all it is probably fruitless. 2d already went through the time when she had a quiet crush on this guy when they both were in an AWANAs group in 7th grade. It was not reciprocated then, and 2d has a long memory. His tastes in music are very different from hers and that is an important litmus test for her. She appreciates all kinds of music but doesn't consider rock to be music, and that usually puts an end to anyone who does. I tease her and tell her that some of her classical music is just as loud and dissonant as rock, but she says traffic in NY is loud and dissonant,too, and so is a pig drive and neither of them classify as music either!

I don't think she is averse to a relationship, but she guards her heart carefully. She likes pretty packages, but has learned they are sometimes empty. She has also set some basic guidelines down and has stuck pretty firmly to them. A previous marriage is one of her disqualifications (in most circumstances) and at her age now, most unattached guys were previously attached. One in particular was a pretty package and had a nice inside also, but something just held 2d back. The former wife got saved and they got back together to raise their little boy and 2d has always been grateful she trusted the Spirit's whisper.

I know she feels pressure from society and occasionally feels alone and wonders about the future, but she fills her life so full of things she loves to do that those times pass quickly. She says the older she gets the more content she is and she hopes she would be flexible enough to change if her path lies another way.

She was riding Destiny for a friend. Destiny was just a young horse and A had been hurt on the horse several times and got spooked, so 2d tried her hand at it. Dolly has thrown her so many times and she has just got back on so nothing Destiny tried had much effect. Lots closer to the ground too.

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